Just when I gave up I was standing right on front of it!
The other day I was in the supermarket looking for a certain item and and I walked all around the shop looking for this item called smash. I went up and down every aisle and around the back section but I couldn’t find it.
Then I went back down the very last aisle and I decided to ask the lady to help me.
And I asked her where is this item and she said it’s right there, and I looked up and I was standing right in front of it.
There was the Universe – giving me a little life lesson that I didn’t realise until sometime later after I left the shop.
Often we are working on a goal, a closely held to dream and we try this and that and nothing seems to be working really substantially.
We might have some small victories but nothing really big time as far as what we have in our minds. So we just give up and say it’s not meant to be.
Perhaps if we held on that bit longer, if we switched or tweaked our plan just that one more time, we might have crossed the finish line and found our dream and achieved our goal or at least achieved as much of it as would be needed to encourage us just to keep going.
So what was the lesson from this humble package of processed potatoes.
Don’t give up, even when it looks like it’s all over. Keep going!
If you must … tweak the plan; get some advanced knowledge – take a course/read a book; ask for assistance from someone you trust; try a different angle …but keep going. Don’t keep doing the same thing if it’s not working or you’re just get the same results and more frustration.
But make adjustments, realign yourself and set your sights again, monitor your progress, and go make the dream your reality or come as close to it as you can.
We can be so close to our goal but we just don’t know it. All we can see is that it’s not there. So just try giving it another shot going a little further down that road and then might be just just the thing that was needed to reach the goal post.
Lets share! …
Have you ever come so close to a goal, and you thought all was lost & were ready to give up, but something good happened that changed everything and you were back in the game again and on the way to a successful outcome. How did you turn things around in your favour? What kept you going?
Feel free to leave a comment on your experiences of perseverance in attaining your goal!
Today let’s talk about loneliness – the feeling of being alone whether you’re in a crowd or whether you’re just by yourself.
It’s quite common, especially now with the lockdown, then social isolation, and social distancing rules. It’s easy to fall into it.
There’s a difference between alone and being lonely. If you’re alone you’re fairly content with your own company. But if you’re lonely you feel like something is missing. You may feel isolated in yourself.
You may feel sad but you don’t know why. You life might be, to all appearances, going splendidly, but in your heart you feel like something’s missing and you don’t know how to find it.
Sometimes we might try to fill that hole in many ways. Some of those could show up as symptoms like sadness or boredom apathy, or an unidentified feeling of anxiousness or too much sleeping.
Or on the other hand – being over excited — which could look like too much shopping or drinking and so on, to fill up the emptiness.
Sometimes the feeling of loneliness can turn us against our own selves. We think that we’re not good enough. We make up imaginary flaws and faults, or exaggerate incidents from our past or current life that could be the cause of our loneliness.
So we’ve got to get ourselves out of this mess. Extreme loneliness is not healthy for us mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally.
Here are a few ideas that came to me to alleviate these kind of feelings which drag your spirit down.
But the first major thing I must say is, if you are really feeling so lonely that you almost feel sick, it might be best to seek help from a trained professional who can talk with you and help you work through your feelings.
But if the feeling of loneliness is something that comes and goes, there might be a few self-directed things that you can do.
Here are 6 handy tips for trying to overcome loneliness and coping with it.
One is to visit the seaside. Yes you might still be alone but there are most likely people about.
But the main point is that you can sense the openness and expansiveness of the sea.
And you know that you are one with that sea. You are one with all that surrounds you and basically you may be alone but virtually you are one with the sea, with the sky, with plants, with nature. You’re not alone.
Being out in the open air can help us clear our minds and feel better.
I think we could experience the same feeling of belonging by going to the park or some nature area. And just walking and experiencing the beauty of the trees and the changing of the Seasons, and the feel of the air on our face. This kind of activity gets us out of ourselves because we’re experiencing the atmosphere around us, and this can lift or spirits and make us feel quite good.
What else can we do ? We can ask ourselves why do we feel lonely. We can grab a paper and pen or use an electronic device and write out why do we feel lonely. What will it take to make us feel not so lonely.
Is it because we want companionship?
Is it because we think our peers are doing way better than we are, so we feel like we have fallen behind and we just feel lonely because we think we’re the only ones in that situation?
Once you’ve identified it as best you can, try to come up with what is the opposite action that will make us feel fulfilled and lifted and then do and work towards that action to the best of our abilities.
Just taking a constructive action could lift our spirits, take us out of ourselves, and into the energy, into the positive Energy, of what it is that we really want in order to feel better about ourselves.
Another thing that we could do to alleviate the feeling of loneliness is get into social media in a positive way. And look for and find people & groups with like interests. And don’t be just a lurker, but get involved in the discussions. And find those groups that keep things positive and uplifting, so that it’s fun to join in.
The 5th suggestion is to take online courses.
Right now it’s a bit difficult to go to an actual course in person because of the current social distancing situation but online study can be fun and useful as well.
You learn something new and your mind shifts again, away from the feeling of ‘only me’, as you get into the thing that you are studying & the new things that you are learning, & the challenge of learning it well.
It’s like you are distracting yourself in a fun way and learning something in the bargain. And if it’s a course that has discussion groups that accompany the lessons, that can be a way to meet new people as well.
And the last idea. number 6…
There are also Meet Up groups that you can join. Meet Up is an app and a website where there are various groups that cover many different interests. Groups for socialising, groups for learning new things, groups for discussing business, learning languages, health, spirituality
… all kinds of groups.
If you get involved in a Meetup Group, that’s another way to get out – digitally at this point in time – and meet other people and exchange ideas and expand your horizons, and have a bit of fun.
I hope these few ideas can at least get you started on the journey out a lonely existence. I’ve been there in the past, it’s not good to hang around there too long.
Do you have any tips on how you shake off that feeling of emptiness or lonlines?
Or maybe you embrace it. Let’s share. Feel free to leave a comment on how you deal with loneliness.
Starting a company blog is one way to make the most of your content marketing. Your blog becomes the hub for news updates, opinion pieces and customer case studies, giving your audience a regular channel to follow, consume and comment on.
But how do you make sure your blog writing is engaging your audience? And how do you create blog posts that will add real value for your customers?
Here are 5 key tips for improving your business blogging
1. Blog about something you have a passion for
This may seem obvious, but if you’re going to write a series of blog posts around a particular theme, it really HAS to be something you have some genuine interest in and passion for.
If you’re running your own business, then you’re already going to have a passionate belief in what you do (at least I hope so!). But try to refine…
I enjoy doing digital artwork (colouring), especially if it is motivational or inspirational. I’ll start sharing some of it here as an alternative sometimes to writing and videos. Here’s the first one!
Choose to shine…you have a special energy and a talent that is uniquely your own. You don’t have to hide or be shy… let the world see it…share and bless others with your unique talents and gifts. 🙂❣
I went to a rooftop garden recently in London. It was my first time to get back on the trains since lockdown in March.
The rooftop garden was very beautiful. There were trees and plants from everywhere. Then I saw the hopscotch diagram and my inner child could not resist how are you having a go. You can see it in the video.
Have you ever had the urge to do something that you used to do as a child just for fun?
Once in a while it might feel good or like a bit of relief to have a good moan or a good complaining session.
But I believe I believe it’s really something that we should do and be done with it, and move on. The problem starts when one complains about one thing and that complaint lead to another issue which in turn can lead to to a whole series of complaints – of seeing the downside, the dark side, the negative side, the draining side of an incident.
What we complain about frequently we can often bring about. Conversely when we we speak positively about, or look for the light in a situation this often can bring about more of that same good or better.
Our words are like magic. They are like magical magnets that attract to us what we put out.
So perhaps the best approach is the way of gratitude. What can we be grateful for in this situation? How has the situation brought light or knowledge into our lives? Gratitude brings more good things to be grateful for because it makes us feel good. That’s perhaps, what we all want anyway. It takes just as much energy to look for things to be grateful for as to look for things to complain about.
So whatever our situation, let’s try to find at least three things every day that we can be thankful for. Maybe write it in a notebook, or keep a record on your phone via an app. Then at the end of the week you can have a little review of your journal entries.
Well I just noticed that it has been eons since I last posted a blog. Apologies!
How is your health? Have you been keeping well? Have you been taking care of yourself ?
It’s so important to watch our good health during these times that we are going through right now. It’s so easy to let the tension just kind of creep in to our minds, and our spirits, and our bodies. So much news, all the adverts on TV are becoming much alike with the same virus-oriented messages & themes – even just to sell a mattress for instance! – we can become so easily influenced, and unconsciously this is happening. And we wonder why we feel tired, and a bit down.
Be sure to get a bit of exercise every day and try to to connect with people virtually if you feel the need to communicate with somebody. Turn off the news once in a while, you don’t have to hear everything every hour on the hour. Take care of yourself and somehow, some way, try to find a bit of joy in every day day. And look for things to be grateful for. There is still always something to be grateful for.
So… last night was a full moon, the flower moon and so I pulled a card for us and here it is. We are blessed, truly. Stay well!