Well here we are 13 days into the new year.
Have you made your resolutions yet?
If not don’t bother! Don’t make resolutions, set goals.
It’s so easy to promise to ourselves I’ll lose weight, I will exercise more, I’ll find a new job, I’ll start my own business. But resolutions are just sometimes just words, resolutions don’t have heart, resolutions don’t have that deep energy of setting of firm, do-able, accountable goals.
If we said a resolution we might just speak it out to our friends to ourselves. And we might take a few stabs at making it come true .
But if we set a goal, if we write it down, if we break it down into small bites do-able steps, if we look at this plan and that’s what it has become now … A plan, not just a resolution or a dream… If we look at this plan every day and tweak it as needed, then we are much more likely to see it come true.
We can break our goals down into lists. What do we want to do overall. What is the first thing that needs to be done no matter how small this task is. Who do we need to help us make this goal reality. How can we make contact with that person, or what do we need … perhaps a course. Perhaps we just need more training before we can get going on our dream.
Then let’s break it down into a do-able time frame . We don’t have to do everything at once. That can become quite overwhelming and we feel like giving up before we even start.
Buy a notebook, or use an app that will help you to organise your thoughts, organise your actions, and just do things little by little. Sometimes we can take big leaps once we get going. But it’s often better to make some kind of start.
Even if we don’t have the whole big plan sorted out in detail, if we have a general idea start there. Start with the first definite, clearly aimed step and go from there.
I like to think of making goals, not resolutions. It’s funny how when you are as clear as you can be on a vision or dream, a goal, it’s funny how help seems to come to you.
You might read a book, you might mention a bit of your plan to a friend who knows someone who knows someone, or just comes up with a good idea that you’ve not thought of. But do be careful of who you share this dream with, that you are pretty confident that they are behind you not possibly against you.
Finding like minded people to support each other is really good as well for turning resolutions into goals. Because they’ll look after you and support you and question you and kind of help you stay on the right track, and you’ll do the same for them.
If you have to go it alone there are a lot of supportive helpful groups on the internet. Positive people who are dedicated to helping each other. And if you happen to find the group is not compatible to your interests, to your being, to your energy … leave and find another.
So this year 2018 let’s give goal setting and achieving a try. Get a nice journal or find a favourite notebook or diary app keep track of your progress and make that dream come true.
So let’s share. Have you set goals for 2018? Or perhaps you already have an existing goal and you just want to progress further along that road. What kind of things are you doing to help yourself stay on track? Do you have any tips that you can share with the rest of us ?
Here’s the podcast version of this blog, which includes an affirmation! 😊